Divorce, thyroid issues, an aversion to being pressured to look a. Kelly Clarkson and Mayim Bialik found a lot of common ground during the pop star’s on the latter’s podcast, Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown.
Fresh from gardening and feeling “comfortable,” Clarkson wore pigtail braids and nary a stitch of makeup as she appeared over Zoom for the interview. She cited her casual appearance as she discussed her challenge to be true to herself regardless of her fame.
“I think the biggest thing for me in my whole career is, just being me has been hard,” the talk show host, 39, revealed, gesturing to her face as she added, “Like, no manager would ever want me to do thisI have no makeup on.” She noted that the low-key look would be at odds with the Hollywood image she’s been pressured to project in the past.
“Everybody wouldto get you to be somebody you’re not, and the hardest part has been being me,” Clarkson said. “So I think that’s been the hardest challenge, I guess I’d say, with
That struck a chord with Bialik, 45, with the 45-year-old Call Me Kat star sharing how she, too, has gotten pushback for not wearing makeup, wearing too much black, or not losing weight. Clarkson, meanwhile, has critical comments roll off her back. She credits a moment with helping her realize the futility of changing herself to please others.
“I was sitting in a room full of — no offense, I love men, I love older men, they’re great — but I was sitting in a room full of men that were far older than me telling me what I should be like, what I should say in interviews, what I should sing, and I’m like, ‘Y’all don’t even listen to me. You’re not even my core audience. Like, how would you know?'” Clarkson recalled. “I realized at that moment I would never please anyone. I won’t. You can’t please them all.”
That’s true for what comes out of her mouth — noting the pushback she frequently gets over what she shares on her talk show — and how she looks. Her philosophy essentially boils down to “I’m going to do what I want to do at that moment.”
“I get out of my glam room, and I am like, ‘Harry freaking Potter just got ahold of my face. I don’t even look like the same human,'” she joked. “But in my everyday? No. I won’t get dressed up to go to Target or hang out with my friends.”
And she indeed plans to resist any pressure to undergo cosmetic procedures as she ages. “I’m gonna look like a total Shar Pei, like a dog,” she quipped. “I’m going to have every wrinkle in the world on my face. It has nothing to do with me being better than somebody who gets something done to their face; I am afraid of botulism toxin… It’s called botulism toxin, and I’m like, no.
“Any needle that goes in my body is either taking blood to check my thyroid,” added the singer, who also spoke about her hypothyroidism and otherin the episode. “That’s not me being above it — I’m terrified. If I weren’t terrified, I would be sitting right here with some double Ds; I’m going to be real with you because I never had big boobs, and I always wanted big boobs, but I’m terrified, and I would never get a boob job. Why would I cut myself on purpose?”
Instead, she’s learning to embrace agings — “I hope people see that this is what it looks like, this is how you look when you get older,” sheold on camera — and her body. “My body is an anomaly; it should be studied when I die,” Clarkson said as she described keeping a wide range of sizes in her closet. “I can gain two sizes or lose two sizes from morning to lunch. It is the weirdest thing; it’s all inflammation, whatever.”
The American Idol winner also spoke candidly about mental health, likening fame to growing up in a small town where everyone knows everyone’s business. “It was just on such a global level that I think it was overwhelming,” she said of a low moment after in which she “literally started hysterically crying” in her Texas garage after realizing she couldn’t just quietly pop to the store anymore.
“I needed milk, but I just didn’t want to see people because I was empty,” she told Bialik and her co-host and boyfriend, Jonathan Cohen. “I was like, I have no fuel. It’s not that I didn’t want to be nice; I just had no fuel and was rundown. I didn’t know that I could. And as a girl, especially from the south where I’m from, you don’t want to appear lazy or bitchy or all the things. I didn’t have that knowledge in my core yet.”
“‘I can’t take it back,'” she remembers repeating to her bewildered brother. “You can’t take it back. You’re just famous. Even if it doesn’t work out and you’re not famous anymore — your career goes to crap or whatever — you’re still famous like people know who you are in many places.”
Like Bialik, Clarkson is a divorced mom of two, splitting from her husband Brandon Blackstock last summer. She shared that the breakup inspired the singer’s music, revealing, “I haven’t written this many songs told Bialik that she and Blackstock sought counseling together before their divorce.I was 20… Music is your outlet. it’s your escape and therapy.” But she’s also going to therapy and
“We weren’t lining up — no matter what one would tell me to do this or that — we just weren’t lining up,” she said. “And I guess because I’m a child of a couple of divorces with my family, it’s not so weird to me that you start in this relationship, you have similar ideals, similar dreams, all those things, and that can change, and, and things get altered. We were in there, and neither of us wanted a divorce, so that’s why I started therapy, and that’s why we all did in our family.”
Theto the couple’s discord. “We keep making jokes in our camp because it’s like, ‘Oh, COVID got another relationship.’ It’s not just getting people’s health; it’s also getting people’s relationships,” she continued. “It was an extreme environment for everyone, which went into play in the decision.
I think therapy for me was figuring out; I am one of those people, I will keep doing something [slapping her palm] like insanity — like expecting a different result because I don’t like to give up. I don’t want to lose hope in anything; I think everyone can change. I’m such a Pollyanna in that sense.”
She added, “I needed to talk to someone outside myself, and I think that that’s so important for everyone… It’s nice to have someone outside your circle and your life. It’s someone that you are just completely and honest about everything that maybe you shouldn’t tell people.” While opening up to a “stranger” felt weird at first, Clarkson said that the therapy process has been “really healthy” for her.
“Nothing’s going to get fixed just by beating the same dead horse,” she said. “Nothing’s going to get resolved if you’re both unwilling to work towards that same goal, that same vision that you have for each other. And that’s not a horrible thing. That was the thing too — I think if you’re from divorce, like as a kid, you’re like, ‘I will never do that. Like, I never want to through that. I never would do that.’ And I was so against it. And, I don’t know, I tried so hard, and I think people do. You try, and it doesn’t work.”
She also referenced a report her mom came across that said Clarkson had had a breakdown over the split — something sheobliged to correct because it’s understandable why someone going through a divorce would. “It’s kind of a huge, horrible thing,” she said of divorce. “There’s nothing wrong with [having a breakdown].”